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		<title>How To Build Your Confidence</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Perhaps the single greatest source of mental energy is positive interaction with others. Even if you were the class nerd in high school, it&#8217;s never too late to achieve social success. You can develop social confidence by following a few simple steps.</p> <p>Schedule your social life: To hone your social skills you have to invest time [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Perhaps the single greatest source of mental energy is positive interaction with others. Even if you were the class nerd in high school, it&#8217;s never too late to achieve social success. You can develop social confidence by following a few simple steps.</p>
<p>Schedule your social life: To hone your social skills you have to invest time in them. Practice makes perfect, even for the socially secure. By surrounding yourself with others you create a rich supply of opportunities to observe interactions and to improve upon your own social behaviors. Stop turning down party invitations and start inviting people to your home. Plan outings with acquaintances you&#8217;d like to know better.</p>
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<p>Think positive: Insecure people approach others anxiously, feeling they have to prove that they&#8217;re witty or interesting. Self-assured people expect others to respond positively—despite the fact that one of the most difficult social tasks is to join an activity that is already in progress.</p>
<p>Engage in social reconnaissance: The socially competent are highly skilled at information gathering, always scanning the scene for important details to guide their actions. They are tuned in to people&#8217;s expression of specific emotions, sensitive to signals that convey such information as what people&#8217;s interests are, whether they want to be left alone or whether there is room in an activity for another person. To infer correctly what others must be feeling, you must be able to identify and label your own experience accurately. That is where many people, particularly men, fall short. Good conversationalists make comments that are connected to what is said to them and to the social situation. You don&#8217;t have to be interesting. You just have to be interested.</p>
<p>Enter conversations gracefully: Timing is everything. After listening and observing on the perimeter of a group they want to join, the socially competent look for an opportunity to step in, knowing it doesn&#8217;t just happen. It usually appears as a lull in the conversation. Tuned in to the conversational or activity theme, the deft participant asks a question or elaborates on     what someone else has already said. The idea is to use an open-ended question that lets others participate. &#8220;Speaking of the election, what does everybody think about so-and-so&#8217;s decision not to run?&#8221; Once the conversation gets moving, back off and give others a chance to talk. The goal is to help the group have a better conversation.</p>
<p>Learn to handle failure: Everyone will sometimes be rejected. The socially confident don&#8217;t take rebuffs personally. They don&#8217;t attribute rejection to internal causes, such as being unlikable or an inability to make friends. They assume it can result from any of many factors—incompatibility, someone else&#8217;s bad mood, a misunderstanding. Self-assured people become resilient, using the feedback they get to shape another go at acceptance. When faced with failure, those who are well-liked turn a negative response into a counterproposal. They say things like, &#8220;Well, can we make a date for next week instead?&#8221; Or they move onto another group in the expectation that not every conversation is closed. And should they reject others&#8217; bids to join with them, they do it in a positive way. They invariably offer a reason or counter with an alternative idea: &#8220;I would love to talk with you later.&#8221;</p>
<p>Manage your emotions: Social situations are incredibly complex and dynamic. There&#8217;s all kinds of verbal and nonverbal cues, such as facial expression and voice tone that have to be interpreted before you decide on the best response—all in a matter of microseconds. No one can do all that without a reasonable degree of control over their own emotional states, especially negative emotions such as anger, fear, anxiety, emotions that usually arise in situations of conflict or uncertainty. The trick is to shift attention away from distressing stimuli toward positive aspects of a situation.</p>
<p>Defuse disagreements: Conflict is inevitable; coping with confrontations is a critical social skill. Instead of fighting fire with fire, socially confident people stop conflict from escalating; they apologize, propose a joint activity, make a peace offering, or negotiate. Sometimes they just change the subject. Managing conflict without aggression requires listening,     communicating, taking the perspective of others, controlling negative emotions, and problem-solving. Even just explaining your point of view in an argument is a helpful move.</p>
<p>Laugh a little: Humor is the most prized social skill, the fast track to being liked. There&#8217;s no recipe for creating a sense of humor. But even in your  darkest moments, strive to see the lighter side of a situation.</p>
<p>Hara Estroff Marano, <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/collections/201106/get-confident/build-your-confidence">Get confident</a></p>
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		<title>The Psychology Of Panic Buying</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Mar 2011 00:40:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p id="story_continues_1">At the eleventh hour Chelsea secured Spain star Fernando Torres for a staggering £50m. But why do people buy under pressure? The deal, which came just as football&#8217;s transfer window &#8211; a month-long opportunity to buy players &#8211; was about to end, has shattered the transfer record for a player moving between British clubs.</p> [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p id="story_continues_1">At the eleventh hour Chelsea secured Spain star Fernando Torres for a staggering £50m. But why do people buy under pressure? The deal, which came just as football&#8217;s transfer window &#8211; a month-long opportunity to buy players &#8211; was about to end, has shattered the transfer record for a player moving between British clubs.</p>
<p>Although most people don&#8217;t have these sums to spend, buying in a time crunch is something we can all relate to. Whether it&#8217;s buying Christmas presents on Christmas eve, eyeing the clock as the sales draw to a close, or picking a purchase a couple of minutes before your train departs, we&#8217;ve all felt rushed into making a decision. So what happens when shoppers buy under pressure?</p>
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<p>Consumers are more likely to do what the retailer wants. And they want you to spend more money, says retail psychologist Tim Denison. &#8220;If you are under time pressure, you are basically looking for cues and shortcuts in the process,&#8221; he says. &#8220;You&#8217;ll be more likely to look at products that the retailer has positioned in places for you to pick out easily.&#8221; So when a shopper is looking for a can of beans at the supermarket, they are more likely to pick out the more recognisable brand, the can placed at eye level, or the one with a price promotion, he says.</p>
<p>Sales can also put undue pressure on buyers for two reasons, says Consumer.ology author Philip Graves. Sales usually last for a limited time and products on sale tend to have limited stock. Most shoppers attach greater significance to potential loss &#8211; missing out on a bargain &#8211; than they do to a reward like having bought something that was needed. The purchaser thinks if they don&#8217;t buy the item at that instant they might miss out entirely, Graves explains. So when an item is discounted, consumers focus on the discount as opposed to the actual price of the good, even if the ticket price is still high, says Dr Denison. &#8220;You&#8217;re thinking &#8216;this is a bargain&#8217; rather than &#8216;this costs £100&#8242;.&#8221;</p>
<p>But sometimes the pressure consumers feel can actually be a good thing, says Graves. An abundance of choices can confuse shoppers because there is too much to consider. &#8220;We tell ourselves we like choices, but when we have more choices we get confused,&#8221; he says. So an outside factor, like a refrigerator breaking, that forces consumers to make a fast purchase can actually help them reach a decision quickly before they become overwhelmed by the options. But if a shopper hasn&#8217;t gone through a rational process because of time constraints or other elements of stress, they may feel guilt or anxiety, referred to as &#8220;buyer&#8217;s remorse&#8221;, explains Dr Denison.</p>
<p>And there is a difference in the way men and women rationalise their shopping behaviour. &#8220;Women look for the bargains and pick up something thinking it&#8217;s scarce, come home, unpack it and frequently will accept that what they bought is a disappointment,&#8221; he says. &#8220;For men, whether they feel remorse or not, they are unlikely to declare it.&#8221; So what can be done to avoid the pitfalls of buying under pressure?</p>
<p>The old adage &#8220;if you are going supermarket shopping, never go on an empty stomach&#8221; can apply to any sort of shopping. Going with a plan or a list may help curb unplanned spending and reduce potential feelings of regret, says Dr Denison. For example, if you go to WHSmith looking for a book 10 minutes before the train leaves, spend time browsing books rather than getting seduced by Maltesers, and the other impulse products, which are strategically placed to make you grab them on your way past. These days many shoppers seem to understand this notion.</p>
<p>According to Planet Retail&#8217;s research director Natalie Berg, consumers have been buying wisely during the recent austerity. To stretch their budget, shoppers have tightened their purse strings and are generally sticking to lists. But this is bad news for retailers, as impulse buys are often more profitable, she explains. Retailers are scrambling to figure out how to get consumers to spend more again &#8211; and not just on their shopping list, but also on unplanned purchases.</p>
<p>Brigitt Hauck, <a href="http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12335556">BBC News</a></p>
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		<title>&#8216;The King&#8217;s Speech&#8217; Is A Hit With Young Stutterers</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Mar 2011 00:20:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>A movie about a stuttering monarch, without sex, car chases or sinewy super heroes, hardly sounds like blockbuster box-office fare. But in a less flashy way, &#8220;The Kings Speech&#8221; is about a hero, one who battles an invisible enemy that torments nearly 70 million people around the world. In demystifying the little-understood speech impediment, the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A movie about a stuttering monarch, without sex, car chases or sinewy super heroes, hardly sounds like blockbuster box-office fare. But in a less flashy way, &#8220;The Kings Speech&#8221; is about a hero, one who battles an invisible enemy that torments nearly 70 million people around the world. In demystifying the little-understood speech impediment, the award-winning film reveals myths and fascinating truths about stuttering, and has won praise from stutterers of all ages.</p>
<p>For Erik Yehl, an 11-year-old Chicago boy who began stuttering in preschool, the movie&#8217;s powerful message is, &#8220;I&#8217;m not stupid.&#8221; It&#8217;s a stigma all people who stutter contend with — the notion that because their words sometimes sputter or fail to come out at all, their minds must be somehow mixed up. &#8220;People who stutter — their minds are perfectly good, and they&#8217;re not deaf, and they don&#8217;t need to be told to breathe. They know how to breathe. What they need is to be listened to,&#8221; said Susan Hardy, who saw the film with her son Aidan, a 14-year-old Chicago eighth-grader who also stutters.</p>
<p>The film depicts King George VI as a reluctant leader tortured by his stuttering. But with a sense of duty as England confronts a second world war, he musters the courage to seek speech therapy so he can address and calm an anxious nation. The movie and its actors have already won Golden Globes and Oscars.</p>
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<p>The focus on George&#8217;s relationship with his eccentric speech therapist who insists on treating him as an equal makes the king a sort of everyman for people who stutter. TV commentator Clarence Page, a nationally syndicated Chicago Tribune columnist, said in an interview that the film heroically depicts a condition he has battled most of his 63 years. Like the king, Page had a strong advocate: a coach who helped him as a teen win second-place in a speech contest after a humiliatingly bad performance the previous year. &#8220;Every stuttering kid needs optimistic support like that,&#8221; Page wrote in a recent column praising the movie.</p>
<p>Jane Fraser, president of the Stuttering Foundation of America, said the movie mirrors her experience growing up with a father who stuttered. Malcolm Fraser formed the advocacy group in 1947 to raise awareness and provide resources for people who stutter. Watching the movie, Jane Fraser said she relived the mortification she used to feel on her father&#8217;s behalf.  &#8220;The impact for me was just bringing home 64 years of trying to get across to people how devastating this disorder is. Just in one fell swoop, this film really got that across,&#8221; she said.</p>
<p>Stuttering affects almost 1 percent of the global population, including 3 million in the United States. It typically begins in early childhood as kids are learning to speak and is more common in boys. About 5 percent of children stutter, but most outgrow it. The condition tends to run in families and genes are thought to be involved in at least some cases.</p>
<p>For Erik Yehl, a fair-haired, soft-spoken boy who loves basketball and video games, the film was sometimes tough to watch, because it hit so close to home. A scene showing George failing miserably while trying to give a speech to a packed stadium was particularly difficult. British actor Colin Firth&#8217;s portrayal makes the shame George feels uncomfortably palpable even for non-stutterers. &#8220;It was hard to hear the speech because he stuttered and I hate to hear that,&#8221; Erik said haltingly. Erik&#8217;s stuttering becomes most noticeable when he&#8217;s nervous. Curiously, his speech flows fluently when he calls out to teammates while playing basketball or football.</p>
<p>The film reveals another surprising truth — singing often frees stutterers of their problem. And experts say that for some people, stuttering disappears when they speak to infants or animals, imitate a foreign dialect, or perform a role onstage. British actress Emily Blunt has been quoted as saying she chose her career after discovering in a school play that her own stuttering stopped while she was acting.</p>
<p>The scant brain imaging research done on the impediment has suggested that different kinds of brain activity occur when people stutter than when they speak fluently. Scientists aren&#8217;t sure why, and also don&#8217;t know why different activities induce fluency among some but not all stutterers, said Ehud Yairi, a prominent University of Illinois expert on stuttering. Research published last year identified mutations in three genes that likely contribute to some cases of stuttering. But it&#8217;s unclear what function those genes have and much about the condition remains a mystery, Yairi said. A researcher and professor emeritus, Yairi is also a stutterer, who speaks at a measured, slow pace. It used to be thought that stuttering was a psychological problem caused by anxiety or nervousness, and &#8220;The King&#8217;s Speech&#8221; seems to suggest that George&#8217;s mistreatment as a child may have contributed to his condition. But experts have largely dismissed that idea, Yairi said.</p>
<p>When children begin to stutter, they&#8217;re usually too young to be aware of it and rarely seem anxious about their speech. It&#8217;s only as they mature and perceive the negative reactions that they become anxious and ashamed, Yairi said. Scientists also used to believe stuttering developed in some children in reaction to parents reprimanding them if they repeated words or sounds while learning to speak. &#8220;We have shown that this is quite likely not the case,&#8221; he said.</p>
<p>Speech therapist Stephanie Hirsh, who runs the Center for Communication &amp; Speech Therapy in Highland Park, Ill., says she learned to control her own stuttering by using a singing-like breathing technique to maintain a continuous flow of air while talking. In the film, the speech therapist used a similar method by having King George insert an &#8220;ah&#8221; sound into a sentence before a treacherous word. Hirsh also offers this advice: Let stutterers know they have all the time they need to express themselves, and that you really want to hear what they have to say. She said her own parents were advised by speech therapists not to talk about her stuttering and not to bring it to her attention. The opposite approach is now favored. That may be why many stutterers have embraced &#8220;The Kings Speech,&#8221; for bringing stuttering out into the open.</p>
<p>Lindsey Tanner, <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/41373715/ns/health-kids_and_parenting/">Associated Press</a></p>
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		<title>Should Babies Come With A Handbook?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">A national campaign should be launched to educate people in the basic principles of parenting, a government-commissioned review concludes today. The initiative would be similar to a public health campaign and explain to parents the importance of the first three years of a child&#8217;s life in setting up emotional and academic foundations.</p> <p>The [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">A national campaign should be launched to educate people in the basic principles of parenting, a government-commissioned review concludes today. The initiative would be similar to a public health campaign and explain to parents the importance of the first three years of a child&#8217;s life in setting up emotional and academic foundations.</p>
<p>The proposal comes from Graham Allen, the Labour MP who was asked to produce a report into early intervention for the government. He says he was struck by the number of his constituents who remarked that &#8220;babies don&#8217;t come with a handbook&#8221; and concludes that the government needs to do more to help. &#8220;The quality of a child&#8217;s relationships and learning experiences in the family has more influence on achievement than innate ability, material circumstances or the quality of pre-school and school provision,&#8221; his report says. &#8220;Yet we do next to nothing to inform parents of this and few parents and remarkably few childcare professionals have any knowledge of this.&#8221;</p>
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<p>He calls on the government to launch a national campaign to ensure that all parents can become effective, nurturing and well-informed. &#8220;Many parents have a strong desire to do the best for their children but many, especially in low-income groups, are ill-informed or poorly motivated on how to achieve this,&#8221; he says. He wants new parents to be &#8220;taught how to recognise and respond to a baby&#8217;s cues, attuning with infants and stimulating them from the very start and knowing how to foster empathy. They need to appreciate the importance of talking frequently with a baby and all the things that would make a positive difference such as cuddling, looking and smiling&#8221;.</p>
<p>The proposals have been welcomed by the leaders of all parties. However, the shadow education secretary, Andy Burnham, said that rather than creating something new, the government would do better to protect services that already existed, many of which faced closure as a result of severe local authority funding cuts. &#8220;Labour is committed to early intervention, but I have serious concerns that this Tory-led government is dismantling the local networks that could deliver it. With Sure Start facing a 9% cut, they are failing to protect the community centres that can intervene early to prevent problems becoming entrenched,&#8221; he said.</p>
<p>Allen is conscious that no money will be made available for a parenting campaign. &#8220;I do not propose that this should be government funded,&#8221; he says. &#8220;This is a Big Society commitment – we all need to work together to improve our future society and this commitment should be backed by relevant experts, voluntary sector and charitable organisations.&#8221;</p>
<p>Allen&#8217;s report calls for school year groups to be numbered from birth, not from the start of primary school, to underline the importance of the pre-school years in child development. This would encourage better levels of &#8220;school readiness&#8221; among all children, he argues. &#8220;This will help everyone with responsibilities for child development, particularly parents, to understand how the 0-18 health and educational cycle is continuous from birth and does not start on entry to primary school.&#8221;</p>
<p>His report claims government policy has for too long been dominated by expensive late interventions, paying for remedial literacy classes, teenage pregnancy projects, drug and alcohol support groups and young offenders&#8217; schemes, to pick up children whose lives have not got off to a smooth start. Allen argues that money can be saved by investing heavily in schemes for children aged up to three to avoid problems later in life. He adds that projects need to have a proven success rate if they are to survive in the harsh economic climate and recommends a wider adoption of methods devised by the US public policy expert Steve Aos to calculate cost-effectiveness. Allen wants 19 early intervention programmes that have a proven track record using these methods to be rolled out more widely.</p>
<p>Dr Katherine Rake, the chief executive of the Family and Parenting Institute, welcomed the proposals, but questioned how they would be funded.  &#8220;We are living in harsh economic times. Local authority budgets and charity budgets are under severe pressure,&#8221; she said. &#8220;Increased stress, the threat of redundancy and stretched personal finances can affect the ability of mothers and fathers to be the good parents that they really want to be.&#8221;</p>
<p>How do you feel about this proposal?</p>
<p>Amelia Gentleman, <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/jan/19/parenting-skills-campaign-graham-allen">The Guardian</a></p>
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		<title>Time To Quit? No Smoking Day 9th March 2011</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">Every January sees smokers make valiant attempts to give up tobacco, but often the stress of sticking to this date and other New Years resolutions make many attempts unsuccessful. That&#8217;s why No Smoking Day is such a powerful event for many people as it gives them the extra encouragement and motivation they need [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: left;">Every January sees smokers make valiant attempts to give up tobacco, but often the stress of sticking to this date and other New Years resolutions make many attempts unsuccessful. That&#8217;s why No Smoking Day is such a powerful event for many people as it gives them the extra encouragement and motivation they need to reinforce and achieve those resolutions.</p>
<p>This year No Smoking Day takes place on the 9th March and there will a variety of events going on across the country to support people who want to make that quit attempt. </p>
<p>The NHS Stop Smoking Service offers free, friendly and non judgmental advice and support on stopping smoking where you can talk through quitting with a trained advisor or choose to attend fully supported Stop Smoking Groups with likeminded people. In either case, there is plenty of encouragement and useful tips on coping with stress, dealing with those cravings and how to prevent weight gain.</p>
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<p>Steven Lucas, who works for NHS Northamptonshire Provider Services, says:</p>
<p>&#8220;No Smoking Day provides a fantastic opportunity for would be stop smokers to focus on a particular date to quit, and people are four times more likely to stop smoking with help from their local stop smoking service. It’s a great opportunity to take that first step towards a healthier future.”</p>
<p>Almost a million people in the UK make a quit attempt on No Smoking Day each year, so don&#8217;t go it alone, call the NHS today on 0800 022 4 332 or visit <a href="http://www.smokefree.nhs.uk/">www.smokefree.nhs.uk</a> and together we will help you succeed in stopping smoking.</p>
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		<title>Are We Happy To Be Busy, But Born To Be Lazy?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Jan 2011 11:23:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>If you ever watched the show &#8220;Fraggle Rock&#8221; from the 80s, you&#8217;ll remember that the Doozers were little creatures who spent all of their time building things. Unfortunately for them, the Fraggles&#8211;a far lazier critter&#8211;loved to eat the Doozers&#8217; buildings (though not the Doozers themselves) and summarily crushed the product of the little creatures&#8217; hard [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you ever watched the show &#8220;Fraggle Rock&#8221; from the 80s, you&#8217;ll remember that the Doozers were little creatures who spent all of their time building things. Unfortunately for them, the Fraggles&#8211;a far lazier critter&#8211;loved to eat the Doozers&#8217; buildings (though not the Doozers themselves) and summarily crushed the product of the little creatures&#8217; hard work anytime they wanted a snack. But the Doozers never seemed the least bit frustrated by this and just kept right on building. A <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20548057" target="_blank">study</a> from this year tells us that we&#8217;re better off being like the Doozers, though we&#8217;re wired more like the Fraggles.</p>
<p>&#8220;There are many apparent reasons why people engage in activity, such as to earn money, to become famous, or to advance science. In this report, however, we suggest a potentially deeper reason: People dread idleness, yet they need a reason to be busy. Accordingly, we show in two experiments that without a justification, people choose to be idle; that even a specious justification can motivate people to be busy; and that people who are busy are happier than people who are idle. Curiously, this last effect is true even if people are forced to be busy. Our research suggests that many purported goals that people pursue may be merely justifications to keep themselves busy.&#8221;</p>
<p>Participants were offered an identical reward (a chocolate candy bar) for either delivering a completed questionnaire to a location that was a 15-minute walk away, or delivering it just outside the room they were in and then waiting 15 minutes. 68% chose to deliver it just outside the room and wait. When the reward was changed to a slightly different chocolate candy bar, 59% chose to walk 15 minutes to deliver the questionnaire (and this held true even though both types of candy bars were rated as equally appealing by all participants).</p>
<p>Afterwards, participants who took the walk rated themselves as feeling significantly happier than those who sat it out. It appears that our first instinct is for idleness, but when given an excuse to be busy (even a meaningless one), we&#8217;re liable to act on it and consequently feel happier. But before you go looking for busy work, remember that our evolutionary vestige to conserve energy is tough to overcome. Believe it or not, laziness, in marginal doses, serves a purpose.</p>
<p>David DiSalvo, <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/neuronarrative/201012/ten-psychology-studies-2010-worth-knowing-about">Neuro Narrative</a></p>
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