Child Run Away Syndrome

Child run away syndrome describes a decision made by a child, whether it be pre-planned or sudden, to flee from the family home. The child may seek refuge in the home of a close friend or relative, but is also likely to chose other locations such as family holiday destinations. In some cases children have been known to select locations at random. What causes this syndrome?

Psychologists believe that child run away syndrome is caused by stress and anxiety, and in the majority of cases it involves males. Many runaway children feel isolated and that they have little or no support. After escaping from the stressful situation the child will, in most cases, realise that they cannot survive without the emotional and financial support of their parents/guardians. At this point they will either return home, contact their parents/guardians directly, or try to let them know where they are surreptitiously. On return the child is likely to feel shy, embarrased, full of guilt and submissive. What can be done to help the run away child?

It is important to remember that children are fundamentally insecure and lack maturity, but this is all part of the process of growing up. If the family develops an environment where thoughts and feelings can be discussed openly the child may feel able to explore the stress they are experiencing and what is causing it. The child should not be told off for running away but gently encouraged to talk about how they feel. Their behaviour should be discussed rather than them as a person, so personal criticism such as “you are a bad child” should be avoided at all cost. Help the child to adopt healthier coping strategies when similar stressful situations occur. If the behaviour persists, or becomes more serious, professional help should be sought.

Common reasons for the stress that causes children to run away include feeling unloved, constant arguments between parents/guardians, sibling rivalry, the fear of being punished, school related anxieties or if susceptible to impulsive behaviour. To find out more go to runawaychild