Counselling Central

Have you ever been rejected by a partner, an employer or a friend? What sort of feelings did you experience? The chances are your confidence and self esteem took a big hit. You may have felt that you were a terrible partner, employee or friend and that other people wouldn’t want to get to know you, or hire you, as a result. How can you deal with these feelings?

In her post “How to Handle Rejection” in Psychology Today, Carlin Flora describes this as a chance to reinvent yourself.

What are all of the things you can still do even if someone rejects you? Chances are there’s nothing you can’t do. You may be disliked or rejected because someone disagrees with the principles or values you hold dear. This doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with your beliefs. Avoid over-thinking about the rejection because negative feelings and worry increase exponentially. Distract yourself with a calming activity such as meditation or a hobby you enjoy. Learn to appreciate that there are shades of grey in every relationship. People may have a disagreement with you one day and then be fine with you the next. Finally remember that you are much more than your job. Think of this as an opportunity to reinvent yourself and your career.

What other strategies have you found helpful when experiencing feelings of rejection?