Is Your Boss An Egomaniac?

A recent national comparative study carried out in 2004 and 2009 shows that self oriented bosses are on the increase. What do we mean by self oriented? Typically it is defined as behavior in which one places (stereotypically) one’s entire emphasis on the well-being of oneself. It is an obsessive preoccupation with oneself and one’s own career.

The study looked at the ‘bad boss traits’ of being stubborn, self oriented, interruptive, overly-critical and tantrum throwing. It found that self oriented now tops the list with 60% of the vote, while being stubborn came in a close second. According to the global research firm who conducted the study, seven in ten respondents agreed that ”bosses and children with too much power act alike”. In fact all of the childish traits among bad bosses had increased between 2004 and 2009.

How can employees deal with self oriented bosses? The first part of the problem appears to stem from stressful situations such as a recession, or a frenetic workplace. In these situations bosses are trying to justify their own existence within the organisation, which leaves employees reluctant to say anything in case they lose their jobs. The good news is there are proactive and empowering steps that can be taken to manage the self oriented boss. Lynn Taylor, a nationally recognised workplace expert specialising in boss and employee dynamics, suggests:

Praise unselfish behaviour: Positive reinforcement of good behavior works. Encourage selflessness at every chance. If your boss takes even the slightest step in refocusing toward you, toward others on your team or in your office, praise it lavishly.

Model good teamwork: Show that no one person can carry the entire office. Demonstrate through your words and actions how to cooperate by giving others credit when it’s due. Praise others for their teamwork.

Find ways to make your needs known: Give your boss plenty of advance warning that you have other tasks that need your attention – diplomatically. Don’t provoke your boss, think “educate” your manager, without being patronising.

Help your boss to understand his self oriented behaviour: When your manager takes self centered actions that have negative consequences for you, the team or your working relationship, point it out in a non threatening, non emotional way.

Try these steps for change, but if after your best efforts your boss still can’t refrain from self absorption then maybe it’s time to head for the door. Your health and peace of mind comes first. Always.