Met Somebody New? How To Successfully Make That First Call

So you dressed up in your best clothes, bathed yourself in aftershave or perfume, and headed out for the evening. A few drinks later you were the life and soul of the party, and before long you started talking to somebody. Or was it just a chance encounter at your local Tesco? You accidentally bumped trolley’s with somebody and before you knew it you were chatting.

The next day you manage to retrieve the piece of paper you scrawled their number on from the back of your jeans. Anxiety is building, you can feel your heart pumping, but you make the call… and get their voicemail. Here’s where things generally start to go wrong. Before you know it you have left a message reminding the person who you are and asking for a call back, and then you sit waiting for minutes, hours, days.  Slowly your self esteem ebbs away and you start to imagine all sorts of scenarios in your head that involve you being unworthy of a call back. If you make a second call you’re worried that you’ll appear needy. What should you do?

Let’s go back a paragraph and first take on board the suggestions of Wayne Elise of  ’Charisma Arts’. According to Wayne the first step when taking somebody’s phone number is to make sure they also take yours. In a world where we are all contactable through our mobile phones, call screening plays an important part in which calls we decide to take and which calls we let go to voicemail. Encourage your new friend to store your number. When their phone rings, hey presto!

The second step is not to leave a message that says “call me back”. Keep the ball in your court. Leave a friendly message saying how much you enjoyed chatting the other day and then say when you will call back. They can either call you back or wait for your call. You’ve made communicating with you pressure free.

If you decide to send them a text message limit yourself to one question at the end. Asking lots of questions slows up the communication process and puts pressure on the person receiving the message. Some people don’t like to spend time typing out long messages on a phone. You want to meet this person again and that will be the time to take an interest in who they are.  

Let me know if Wayne’s suggestions work for you. Hopefully these tips should alleviate the need for you to spend days staring at your phone waiting for that call back. Happy dating!